Kissing: Love in action with your lips. I don't need to say much about this article because it's pretty self-explanatory. I think a lot of married couples need to read and re-read this article at least every couple months. Its amazing to see all the loving communication you give through them. Thanks Sheila from To Love Honor and Vacuum for another great article! - Rejoicing
Frankly, I’m afraid that kissing often becomes a lost art in marriage. Most of us kiss before we’re married, but once we’re married we often stop, because kissing is supposed to lead to something else, right? And if we’re not sure we want to go there, then we don’t want to kiss. We wouldn’t want to give him the wrong idea.
But when we stop kissing, we lose one of our greatest ways to boost our own libidos–and we lose out on a lot of intimacy and fun! So today I thought I’d share ten different kisses every marriage needs.
1. The “Hello” Kiss
He walks in the door–and you stop whatever you’re doing and make sure you get to him first–before the dog, before the kids, before anything. And you tell him, “I missed you today, and I’m glad you’re home!” Or if you’re the one who walks in the door, you seek him out first, and you plant one right on him. It’s usually light, it’s happy, and you’re smiling all the way through it.
I think this one’s my favourite–just because I look forward to whenever my husband comes home.
And what if it’s hello after a longer absence? Then all bets are off! You can end up on the floor, you can end up rolling around, you can end up all tangled. And tears are often involved.
2. The “Whooppee! I’m So Excited!” Kiss
You just got a promotion! He just got a raise. You just signed on the house! The little stick was pink. Whatever it may be–this one involves him picking you up and spinning you around, and lots of passion, and lots of laughter, all at the same time.
Because when we’re excited, we want to share it!
3. The “It’s Going to Be All Right” Kiss
Tears are falling silently. The miscarriage is over and you’re lying down in bed. You’re back from your mom’s funeral. You’re recovering from a fight with your teenage daughter, and you’re not sure if the relationship can be repaired.
And you lie down next to each other, hearts breaking, and you reach out and kiss. Sometimes it’s gentle, and sometimes it’s for dear life, but with this salty kiss you’re saying the same thing–I’m here with you. I’m not going anywhere. We’re going to get through this. And I want to share your pain.
Turn to each other when you hurt. It’s very healing.
4. The “I Love You So Much” Kiss
You’ve just prayed together and you’re overwhelmed by how amazing this man is. He’s just come back inside from throwing the ball around with your son. He stood up for you when your mom tried to manipulate you again.
And you’re so thrilled that this man is in your corner.
This kiss is heartfelt, it’s long, it’s drawn out–and you can feel it in your toes.
5. The “I’m Sorry” Kiss
One of your messed up–big time. You’ve confessed. You’ve forgiven. And now you’re rebuilding.
This one often starts out tentatively–but often ends up much more passionately. And often in bed! (Make up sex is a real thing, you know ).
6. The “I’m Going to Ravish You Now” Kiss
Here’s where the excitement is overwhelming, and the kiss takes on a life of its own.
This one almost always leads somewhere fun–and is almost always very memorable. Don’t be afraid to drag this one out. It’s more fun that way!
7. The “Silly” Kiss
You’re teasing each other. You’re tickling each other. You’re trying to gross the kids out. You’re dancing in the kitchen and he dramatically dips you–and then doesn’t let you get up.
We all need times just to be silly in our marriages. Throw in some silly kisses, too!
8. The “I Think You’re Hot” Kiss
This isn’t the passionate one–because you don’t have time. You’re stealing a kiss, and giving him a message for what’s coming later. Here’s where you grab him, give him a long-drawn out, deep kiss that leaves him breathless–and then you smile and walk away, whispering, “later.” Because everyone needs some teasing in a marriage–as long as it’s going somewhere, of course!
9. The “You’re Just So Darn Cute” Kiss
You’re out for a walk and he’s telling a funny story. He’s imitating a weird accent and acting out a scene from work. He’s making you laugh, and he’s just so cute that you reach over and give him a little peck, laughing all the way.
Throw in some laughter into your marriage–it’s good for the soul!
10. The “Good-Bye” Kiss
Finally, it’s the most important one. Whether it’s just an affectionate peck when you say good-bye in the morning, or a tear-laced drawn out kiss when you’re parting for a while, make sure that every time you part, you part with a kiss. Make it a habit–let that always be the last thing you do, and you’ll hold on to him the whole time he’s gone.
Kissing in marriage is so important to express all kinds of different emotions. It’s our own special way of connecting. If your marriage regularly uses one or two of these–but rarely all ten, maybe it’s time to expand your repertoire! Laugh more. Be silly more. When you’re resolving conflict, end it well. Comfort him more. Be more vulnerable. Open up more.
Kissing can do all of that. So let’s rediscover the lost art of kissing–and have a wonderful time doing it!
Haven’t kissed passionately in a while? Just start with some little pecks to say good-bye and hello, and build from there. But don’t let kissing die. It’s too important–and too fun!