After you read a few paragraphs here, your feathers might be
ruffled. Please don’t click off; please finish the whole post and understand my heart. Please know that I do care and love each of you and just
want us all to thrive in our walks with Christ.
First off, I want to reiterate what we already know. That is that Josh Duggar has horribly sinned. He has sinned first and foremost against
God, also against his wife and children, against his family, against the
organization he worked with, against other Christians and many more. His sin and the consequences will most likely devastate
his family for a very long time IF not a lifetime.
The name of Christ has been so utterly trampled because of
him. Thankfully, we have a BIG God! He really doesn’t need Josh, but if Josh
is willing, He can take this mess and make it into something beautiful. That is,
if Josh is willing. This can not be the fake tears and a feigned sorrow to get off the hook. It
has involve real remorse and a changing of the heart.
The good news is that we know and love a Bible character that did the very same thing. Look at David and look at when David finally sees his sin.
Psalms 51 “ Have mercy upon me, O God, according to thy
lovingkindness: according unto the multitude of thy tender mercies blot out my
transgressions. Wash me throughly
from mine iniquity, and cleanse me
from my sin. For I acknowledge my
transgressions: and my sin is
ever before me. Against thee,
thee only, have I sinned, and done this evil in thy sight: that thou mightest be justified
when thou speakest, and
be clear when thou judgest. … Hide
thy face from my sins, and blot out all mine iniquities. Create in me a clean
heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. Cast me not away from thy
presence; and take not thy holy spirit from me. Restore
unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit. Then will I teach
transgressors thy ways; and sinners shall be converted unto thee. …The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a
broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise.
This too must be the heart-cry of Josh if he wants to be
restored to God and His family. It can not be fake. It has to be a REAL crying
out to God.
I love that it so clearly says “Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit. Then will I teach
transgressors thy ways; and sinners shall be converted unto thee”
Josh can be restored and he can go on and live a godly
life, teaching others the lessons that he has learned in such a difficult way. We as Christians need to
pray for this in his life.
So now let’s talk about us. Yes, his family put
themselves on TV for all the world to see, but, as Christians, do we have the
right to judge them. …and this is where you might get your feathers ruffled…
but PLEASE hang on and keep reading.
First off, I would say what Jesus said in John
8:7
“…He lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone
at her.”
What Josh did was WRONG but why are we all
throwing stones at him when our life is filled with our own sin.
If we TRULY feel like we
are his "friend" then we would need to judge/confront him the right way. The Bible
gives clear commands on how to confront our brother in Matthew 18:15-17
“Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell
him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast
gained thy brother. But if he will not hear
thee, then take
with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every
word may be established. And if he shall neglect
to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let
him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.”
So if we feel strongly about what Josh did, then we need to go to him and confront him the Biblical way. BUT, let’s be
straight, most of us have never even met the guy, let alone been "friends" with
him. Instead, we are just trashing his name on social media.
Have
you prayed for him?
Have we got down on our knees and begged God to intervene
for his wife and him?
Have I prayed that God would restore their marriage and
restore their family?
I
have a very close friend who went through the same type of situation as Josh and
Anna, many years ago. It was a HORRIBLE time. However, they got help, repentance took place, and
recently the couple mentioned to me that their marriage was stronger and better
than it was before they had these issues. They are now thriving and
serving God in some amazing ways.
I have hope for the Duggars. That hope is Jesus.
He is in the healing business. If Josh is willing, God can do some big things
in his life and in hismarriage.
What can we learn from this?
- Your sin WILL
find you out?
Looking
at this situation, I think it’s quite ridiculous that this young man thought that
he could get away with his sin. I mean, his family was on national TV.
So what about us, dear friends, what are we hiding? What do people not know about in our
lives?
Numbers 32:23 “Behold,
ye have sinned against the LORD: and be sure your sin will find you out.”
- Can I cast that
stone?
What about you? Are you having an affair? There
were thousands of people with Ashley Madison accounts.... but I’m not even talking about that.
Affair of the Heart:
What
distracts you from your family? Am I obsessed with social media? Do our
husbands try to get our attention but we are too distracted talking to our
friends online? Am I so attached to my phone that it’s become my "love"?
What about football season? Are you having an affair with
sports? Video games? Pinterest? Movies?
Emotional Affairs:
Ladies,
maybe our husbands don't communicate in the ways that we need. So, where are
we finding fulfillment?
Pornography:
Many
of us ladies are appalled by the fact that this young man was addicted to
pornography. However, we see nothing wrong with watching soft porn that we name "chick flicks". THE NOTEBOOK, TITANIC to name a couple.
“It’s
just one scene!”
What
if Josh said that about his problem?
Are we having affairs in our hearts, in our heads? What distracts you from your
family? What is the "love" in my life?
HE DOES IT...
“Well,
yeah, but my husband is distracted by ______________ and I just do ______
when he is doing ________.”
This
is wrong. Both husband and wife need to get with God and ask Him to help them get rid of these
distractions and make the couple ONE again.
A CLEAN HEART...
My
sweet friend, CLEAR IT OUT! Get rid of it! Have an "affair" with Jesus. Have an
affair with your husband. Make them the loves of your life. If they are not,
then we are no better than Josh.
Ask
God to show you. Let's remember to pray for this dear family and work on our own lives. – Rejoicing in the Present.